ANG TOTOONG NAGMAMAHALAN

Kapag nagmahal ka, kaya mong umunawa at magpatawad kapag siya ay nagkasala kahit paulit-ulit.

Kapag paulit-ulit kang sinasaktan, at pulit-ulit mong pinapatawad – mahal mo kasi.

Ngunit kapag paulit-ulit niyang ginagawa – ikaw na lang ang nagmamahal dahil sarili na lang niya ang kanyang mahal.

Ang pagmamahalan ay laging pangdalawahan.

Hindi puwedeng isa lang, dapat kayong dalawa.

Ipaglaban ninyo ang inyong pagmamahalan.

Lahat ng pagmamahalan ay mayroong pag-aaway

dahil masasaktan at masasaktan ka niya kahit hindi sinasadya.

At ikaw rin, makakagawa ka ng mga bagay na ikasasakit niya.

Pero kung palaging ikaw o siya ay nasasaktan

Isipin mo kung kaya pang pagtiisan.

Kung kaya mong tanggapin ang anoman sa kanya

o mahal ka niya maging sino ka pa,

bakit hindi ninyo maidadaan sa pag-uusap

ang inyong hindi pagkakaunawaan?

Huwag mong samantalahin at abusuhin ang pagmamahal

o huwag mong sakalin hanggang magipit ang iyong minamahal.

May ipapabago siya sa iyo, ganun ka rin sa kanya.

Hanggang may mapagkasunduan kayo.

Huwag magsalita ng tapos at hindi mapaninindigan.

Dahil baka ikaw ang talo kapag kayo’y nag-away.

Maaaring mali siya, at may pagkakamali ka rin.

Magpatawad at kalimutan,

magbago at huwag ulitin.

Hindi mo sasaktan nang paulit-ulit ang taong mahal mo.

May mali kapag paulit-ulit.

Kung paulit-ulit, hindi kayo natututo.

Kapag nag-aaway, hindi yan magkasundo.

Kapag hindi magkasundo, hindi yan magkabagay.

Pag-usapan ninyo ang pagkakaiba ninyo, at magkasundo kayo,

at tuparin ninyo ang pinagkasunduan ninyo para maging magkatugma kayo.

Kapag alam ninyo kung ano ang inyong pinag-aawayan, bakit paulit-ulit lang?

Sa maliliit pero madalas na pagtalunan, kaya ninyong magbago.

Maliit man pero kapag madami, ang sakit ay lalong sasakit

dahil hinihiwa lang ng paulit-ulit ang hindi pa naghihilom na sugat.

Kung iyung maliliit ay hindi ninyo mapagkasunduan

paano pa kaya kung malaki ang dumating?

Pero wala sa liit o laki ay kaya mong magsakripisyo.

Dahil kapag nagmamahal ka, kaya mo ang magbago.

At kung ganuon din ang kayang pananaw,

walang magiging paulit-ulit na pagkakamali at pag-aaway.

Kung sa atin lang, kaya natin ang magtiis, masaktan, at ibaba ang ating sarili

dahil nagmamahal tayo.

Dahil duon tayo sumasaya, kapag nakikita nating napasaya natin ang taong mahal natin.

Pero may hangganan ang lahat.

Lagyan mo ng limitasyon ang iyong pagmamahal.

Kailangan mong magtira sa sarili mo kahit konti

dahil nagiging talunan, kaawa-awa, at mahina ka.

Kailangan mo munang mahalin ang sarili mo

para mahalin ka rin ng iba.

Kung hindi mo mahal ang sarili mo,

paano kang bibigyang-halaga ng ibang tao?

Kaya nga paulit-ulit ang pagkakamali niya ay hindi ka niya binibigyang-halaga.

Dahil kapag mahal mo, mahalagang hindi mo siya sasaktan.

Bigyan mo ng respeto at pagpapahalaga ang sarili mo

para respetuhin ka rin ng ibang tao.

Maaaring mahal ka niya, pero hindi sapat o hindi totoo.

Dahil ang totoong pagmamahalan, walang pagsasakitan.

LIVING UNDER PANDEMIC

In these times where virus spread so fast and it is difficult to know who infects who, maybe we need to treat ourselves asymptomatic. By doing so, we will be careful, considerate and responsible in interacting with our family, friends, and colleagues. And in that way, we will strictly wear mask, do social distancing, keep ourselves clean and control meeting other people.  Because asymptomatic person doesn’t show any symptoms, we become complacent to interact as normal with others without knowing that actually we are already infecting other people.  If we care about the condition of other people, just for now during this pandemic, we will keep away from visiting our relatives, friends and neighbors that might get infected from us.  Let us be considerate and sensitive.  

Before we visit them, it is important to consider their situation.  Let’s take into consideration that we might bring them the virus.  Let us think the financial needs they will spend for medication.  Let us have mercy on the physical pain they will endure fighting the virus.  Let us respect the effort they exert just to protect themselves against virus.  Let us also think about the welfare of other people not just yours.  Don’t be selfish to satisfy your own interest of visiting them without considering if they want people visit them in these days.  Maybe we might just pass them the virus.

It is still important maintaining social distance even with people close to us like friends and colleagues because somehow social distancing separates us from potential virus carriers.  It reduces the risks from certain contamination.  Keep distance.  Remember, we don’t know who has infections, so avoid too close distance from our peers.  Be it in work or personal matter, let us discourage face to face talk.  There is zoom and telephone in works and social media for relatives and friends.  To those of us at home who inevitably get close with our family, the most we can do about this is to practice good hygiene.  Every time we come home from shopping, work and travel, we have to clean our hands or better take a bath.  Our hands are one of the easiest ways for the virus to get into our body through the mouth, nose, and eyes.  When we eat, scratch our nose or even the eyes, we can get the virus through our hands.  Do not touch your face with your bare hands when you are not sure they are clean.

Before going to bed, make sure we had shower since we returned home.  Just like with our hands, if our hair is infected with virus, it can pass to our bedding like pillowcases, blankets and sheets that can settle down to our face, mouth and nose.  And we do not know this happening while we are asleep until you will surprise how you got the virus.  To make it sure, it is important to take shower as soon as you came home to avoid the possible transfer of virus to your couch, dining table, faucets, toilet, cutleries, bedroom, etc.

While interacting and taking with other people, we have to wear face mask properly.  It should covers the nose and mouth and do not touch it while in use.  Notice that it is always our mouth and nose we protect the most so wear a face mask when outdoors, when talking and when in the middle of a crowd.  It is our weapon that shields in defense against and spreading virus.  Sometimes we feel safe with our acquaintances and we become complacent.  We do not wear face mask because they are our colleagues, close friends, and relatives.  Shits happen but looking at this sense of over complacence can save our family and society.

Let us be responsible enough.  If it is not really essentials, do not go out.  If we are not feeling well, do not go to work and do not leave home.  It will just cause more disturbances instead of it would have none at all.  Come to think of it: maybe just superficial but if we will just stay at our home for at least three days in a row, this virus that float in the air outside will eventually die down itself.  If we have spent more than four months now sacrificing our economy for that long, then why not three days?