Questions how are you, how is it going, what's up are every day questions that you have a ready response, you're okay. But the thing is, sometimes you just want to say you are okay even it is not really okay because it is the easy answer. If you can plead the fifth is not because you are under the weather nor you are ignoring the person but it is simply because with due respect, you want to response politely. For one thing, you appreciate being asked and it is so kind of the persons that they aşk because you matters to them.
A SHRINKING VIOLET. You are not people person and no silver tongue. Most of the time, you just want to answer okay just to keep it that way. You don't want to explain or to please people, it is fulfilling to hold your tongue on your part not because you want them fall on deaf ears or just being cold shoulder. Sometimes, you don't have to have big mouth like you don't want to explain it but you just felt to let them know action is easier to understand than words. Loner is really less words and doesn't want attention.
ON THE SPOT. Saying "no" is difficult like saying not okay, but why is it difficult to say not okay when it is really not okay? It is not you wanted to lie but it is the humane way to put the things in place the both of you. It is not that you don't feel to utter it - and there you do not lie. At times we are soft touch. But why, because it humbles ourselves that we do not want our things to make big deal, being us the center of attention, or bother the others just because of us. You don't want to open a can of worms answering from spell it out to pick your brain. It is not being assuming nor over thinking but it is choosing inner piece.
DOUBLE-EDGED SWORD. You don't have to always say yes until you have drained, you need to learn say no. But be forthright and go straight. Call a spade a spade tell it like it is, say you are not okay so they know. Okay is not "okay as okay" when you intended to protect yourself for further questions and remarks to express or explain more of yourself like a head in the sand if that is so. If you want reclusion for yourself piece, then so be it. In the same manner, Okay is "not okay" as okay because it is giving others false take not to worry and it is not assuring your authentic state. Others make effort to break the ice that our warm response deserves their effort. You can beat around the bush even if you answer and you can still avoid it if you don't want to prolong it if you will learn.
HAVE A HEART. Answering you are okay, thank, how about you is music to ears though tends to bowing and scraping but can cut down up without being rude. Sometimes you don't have to do it by the book. Just a short reply and it is okay, it is comforting to the person and it is giving the vibes of in someone's circle when being noticed. Asking how are you, how is it going, what's up is as fast and short as answering just same, not bad, not much. Who would ever thought the person you care to reciprocate will make to feel light their moment? You may never know that you have just saved one lost souls who just need validation that their worth matters when you have just worn your heart on your sleeve and you care to reply. Heroic acts come in any forms we did not meant to do. Sometime it is in the least we expect and out of the blue.
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