CHAOS IN SOCIAL MEDIA

We were misinterpreted sometimes no matter how careful we are.  We don’t want to hurt someone’s feeling or offend anyway.  Not even the unsociable, loner and distant personality would wish to have enemy for they want peace and order that is why they want reclusion.  Someone could be a man of few words yet still criticized.  Our simple, trivial and in good faith remarks can still draw criticism to some.  Without knowing, it could offense or stimulate others to response aggressively, use harsh and insulting words.  Because sometimes our tone, gestures or even our words usage in sentences are totally misunderstood and misjudged no matter how gentle we do and no matter how careful we are.   Language barrier, in social media, we could be bashed when we expressed ourselves and in a snap the group will put us in hot water and you’ll be in the hot seat.  Until later you will realize the long thread conversation is full of derogatory, blatant, harmful and inappropriate words.  The pinnacle of it could be lambasting the embattled someone’s personality that is malign to break him down.  Maybe a language barrier but nevertheless, it will not blow out of proportion if everyone in the group have patience, are broadminded, kind-hearted and professional.  And too late the harm has done.

There’s a lot of dispute that have surfaced these days in cyberspace.  Petty or big argument is part of being into social media but mean, cruel and disrespectful comments are not acceptable part of healthy and matured behaviour from a refined and urbane people, even in cyberspace.   Although we know it is within the boundaries of our right to share opinion in the group and we knew we had no intention of tarnishing anyone’s reputation but everything in cyber world could be read out of the context.  The text written may not really meant when it was read nor when you said it.  The phrase you read in the social media can take differently than when you heard it spoken.  It could be different when we write it than when we hear it because it depends who read.  Because we are different from each other, we have different comprehension and behaviour.  The phrase “mind your own business” when read could be offensive to others but could be compliments to others.  But it could be totally different when it was heard rather than read. That is why text may not necessarily mean how you spelled it.  There are the right punctuation, diction and stress.

In our time today, our world becomes closer, faster and easier in such a way it can cause faster and easier misunderstanding and it cause more painful too.  When we are into social media, we must be extra careful in throwing our statements because we do not know each and everyone in the social network group.  We do not know other people.  We do not know their psychology, temperament and personality.  We cannot tell their limitations and comprehensions.  We are in different group, places, educational, ethnic and demographical background and the only thing that sets apart between us is that thin screen in front of us.  You may have the good school and raised in grandiose house but your foul behaviour and ill manner from outside world including cyberspace will count on your personality.  While someone may have lived in the street but his roughness is better than the screaming overconfident and deceptive diplomacy.  Because home really speaks what made up a person.  No amount of fame, wealth and power can hide the breeding and upbringing of a person whether in outside world or in cyberspace.

We are in the age of cyberspace and the moment you engaged yourself in the group discussion, you are bringing yourself out of your zone – watch your behaviour for everything in you is subject for criticism.  No matter how diplomatic and good you tried, again and again you will be under fire with criticism, persecuted, bullied and judged.  Remember, it is not enough to say you are honest, truthful and straightforward when saying a word.  What is far important, you should take in consideration the emotion of your friends, brothers, sisters and others.  Because freedom of speech is not an excuse to offend, watch your big mouth behaved.  There is thin line between being straightforward and rude, be professional, sensitive and reasonable.