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Insights is compilation of my creative writings and art works created to express myself. It is my viewpoints, perspective, and vision that I wish to share. We're bounded distances across the world and I'd like to keep this distance a closer world.
I want to reach other people and touch their lives by simply sharing my thoughts that may somehow change their lives through my works. I love creative writing, it is my life, my heart and soul where I can totally be true to express my inner thoughts that will not restrict by any boundaries.
It is nice to be with you. Welcome to my home..."
Alex V. Villamayor
In our society, inequality and discrimination are unfairly imposed to women having relationship out of marriage. We are easily judgmental if man committed concubinage is not condemned as woman found adultery. Man having extramarital relationship is not as morally battered as woman having relationship out of marriage. It's clear discrimination, inequality and prejudice. This thinking is a continuing stigma in our society that gives suffering to every woman.
In relationship, both man and woman have to work, do their part and give their share in order to save and make strong their marriage. They should build love and respect among themselves first to have normal, ideal and blessed relationship.
These are just forms of sexism rather than being a true man. The measure of a man is often interpreted as the power he exhibits in the society. But deeper than that, the stand of a man is his social relation, the reputation he built, the word of honor he applies, and the duties and responsibilities he performed throughout his life – these will make him a man.
The essence of a man is when you left the world better than when you found it, either by an improved idea, sweet poem and song or a rescued soul. If you value your word of honor and conviction, if you live your life with respect and courtesy – you are the man. Because the core essence of a man is the life he lived that will be best remembered when he died.
Meeting different people from my everyday social-living gives me different observations in our behavior and attitude. One of these observations is our table manner that transmits either favorable or destructive impression.
We don’t really have to be formal and put things in traditional and compulsory behavior in front of lunch or dinner. We don’t need to act like gentleman’s offering chairs to the ladies at all times. We are not really required to have the proper dress code, use tablecloth and utensils. We don’t need to control ourselves in talking – that’s part of healthy and exciting communication during the dinner. But the way you actually eat is what really matters.
In several occasions when I used to sit in a group lunch, I feel irritated to hear the sound of spoon hitting the teeth when taking it in. I myself am not exception to this, in some incident my spoon hits my teeth and I know it. But I immediately pay attention on it so that the succeeding food-taking will not create same sound again. Take time in taking-in the foods, do it slowly and one at a time. Because the faster you do it, the more chances you will repeat it.
Much more irritation comes to me when I hear the unpleasant noise of masticating the food inside their mouth. It's so unlikable to hear chewing your foods in loud way because it sounds like an animal eating its food - it's really disgusting. I have joined to eat with a group of professionals in different occasions. It makes big turn off for me to hear such sound of water mixing in the chewed foods. No matter who they are and how nice their looks, it’s a disgrace for me. What these guys need is simply close their mouth while they are chewing the food. In that way, the mouth will become sound proof and no unpleasant noise will come out from there.
Also, when someone is using his own spoon to pick up dishes instead of the serving spoon, I feel awkward to complete my dinner then. It can be somehow acceptable if he used his fork, and unless you are romantically involved - it is okay. But for a lunch or dinner of a group with different tastes, different way of life and different belief, who are just happy to share food as company – this is an unhygienic manner. You must also pay attention with what you eat. Salads usually leave your lips with white cream due to the mayo used. And while you are talking, the two sides of your lips are producing the accumulated cream and cheese. So be careful.
And lastly, I see this one mostly in males. During the finale of our dinner: some of you guys when drinking water are gurgling it before you take it in. It is really uncomfortable for me to see this picture. Can’t imagine how the cold water turned into warm, the mixing saliva and the food "residue" - it doesn’t tastes drinking water at all. You consider this: there is separate time to clean your mouth. You have the time to go to lavatory which is more appropriate and proper.
Food Manners and Right Conduct, your etiquette.
“Iba na ang kabataan ngayon”, madalas natin itong marinig sa mga matatanda. Subalit kung tutuusin ay hindi na ito bago. Narinig na natin ito sa ating mga magulang nuong panahon na sinusuheto nila tayo. Ganito rin ang sinabi sa ating mga magulang nuong panahong sila naman ang sinusuheto ng kanilang magulang. At malalaman natin, ito rin ang sinasabi natin ngayon sa pagsusuheto sa ating mga anak.
Nu’ng ating kabataan, narinig nating sinabi sa atin ng ating mga magulang na nu’ng kanilang panahon ay hindi nila magawa ang ginagawa natin dahil hindi maaari sa kanilang mga magulang ang ating ginagawa. Samantalang ngayong mayroon na tayong sariling mga anak, gusto nating ipaunawa sa kanila kapag kinagagalitan natin sila na hindi tama ang kanilang ginagawa dahil hindi iyon ipinagawa ng iyong mga magulang nung ikaw ay bata pa. Ang totoo nito, hindi mo na magagawa ngayon ang ginagawa nuon dahil hindi maaring maging angkop sa lahat ng pagkakataon at panahon ang sitwasyon nuon sa ngayon kaya ang mga dapat at hindi dapat gawin nuon ay maaari o hindi maaaring gawin ngayon. Nagbabago kasi ang panahon, sabay sa paglakad ng mga taon ay nag-iiba ang pangyayari, kapaligiran, at ang mga kuwento. Ang dating hindi maaaring makihabilo ang bata sa gawaing pangmatatanda ay tinatanggap na ngayon bilang isang kamulatan sa mabilis na paglaki ng isang bata dahil iyon ang idinidikta ng panahon.
Kung ating iisipin, hindi talaga mangyayari ang mga itinuro at pagpapalaki sa atin ng ating mga magulang na siyang ginawang pagpapalaki sa kanila ng kanilang mga magulang at mga ninuno. Dahil sa paglipas ng mga panahon, ang pasalin-salin na pagdidisiplina ng mga magulang sa mga anak ay nababawasan. Dahil mayroon pa rin sa ating sarili ang hindi natin nakuha sa ating ama at ina, maaring sinadyang hindi kinuha o sinadyang hindi naituro. Nariyan pa ang mga bagong nadadagdag ayon sa panahon at sa sarling pamamaraan ng isang magulang. At sa panahong ang ating mga anak naman ang magkakaroon ng anak na palalakihin, hindi niya magagawa kung paano natin siya pinalaki. Kaya kung ang kanunu-nunuaan natin ay kilala sa pagiging masinop, nababawasan iyon o kaya mas magiging matindi sa pagsasalin-salin ng pagpapalaki sa mga bata.
Hindi natin hawak ang takbo ng panahon ngunit maituturo natin sa ating mga anak kung paano ang mag-isip ng tama at mali. Kung mahuhubog natin sa ating mga anak ang pagkakaroon ng tamang pag-iisip, lakas ng loob at pagmamahal sa kapwa, magagawa niya ang tama na sa iba ay ipinalalagay na mali.