In jumping ourselves in the bandwagon of social media to share anything about us, primarily we like other people, especially our friends, to let them know what's up with us or what's the news about us. And it is satisfying to see their reaction or who have seen our posts because it means we able to get their attention, send our messages, and know how far our reach. Whatever the intentions of the posts are, could be to brag or just to express our toughts and desires, our friends reactions bring fulfillment to us because our efforts are not wasted. Admit it, the reactions as in liked, loved, cared, wowed or even angered, are the things we look forward to and we are joyed seeing who reacted. It is relevant to see their reactions because it is through their acts that we will able to know that they made us feel what we are to them. Whether or not they really liked our posts but the moment they liked them, they made us felt that we can count on them, they are like saying "I am just here". It is like attendance check to your friends who are still there. "Present" is the answer the moment they liked our posts. The heart, hug, care, and wow are just added bonus to our happy emotion. Call it petty but social media reactions become our guage how relevant our presence is.
Yes petty but this is tantamount to big validation to our friendship. It doesn't mean that for our every ten posts they need to react to those all ten posts. A friend's reacts to just even half of those posts, at least it just make us feel that they are still holding on to our friendship. We are not expecting everybody will react to our posts beause some of them are with us around at work or at home and we have a kind of friendship dynamics with them that no need those feelings of soial media reaction. There is no problem with those we always see with but those we are not seeing and being with because we are distant to each other, maybe if those friends have still concerns to us, they should spare times too to show simple likes to feel us that "hey, I am just here", "I am still not forgetting you"- these are huge connection in friendship.
If you are able to show your friendship to other people but not to one person, something is happening in the friendship. If this continues to happen that it counts more months, then you may be ignoring it or no longer appreciate it, taking it granted, or you may be taking advantage of it, and then maybe you are already pushing your friend away without even realizing it. Especially if you know very well that he is still making it feel like he is still here to continue the friendship even if you don't reciprocate. When you give reaction to everyone else's post, it means you want to make them happy, to please them, and you are making good shots to them, why can't you do that to other friend of yours? So think about how your friend would feel if you ignored his posts. Priorities - maybe you have more priority over the others than the other one.
The simple reaction from our friends to what we share on social media is saying that "you are not alone", that "if you are looking for a friend, count me in". That doesn't mean they will be with in good times and bad, but that is not important anymore, all we need is to know that there are still people around who know that we are still here. They just show that everytime they like our posts, they are renewing their friendship with us. It's just a simple statement that whatever we did, it is okay with them. So if you know that it's been a while since you have been able to make your friend feel like you are there and to make him happy, then take the initiative to find him and like at least the last three posts. He will be grateful because his renewed friendship is still there serving its essence.
There is this funny banter inside our cirle of friends that when one of the friends posted a potential comic post, one of the friends reacted it with heart emotion and jokingly posted a comment that says "ok, I "hearted" it already". This is sarcastically funny but we like it because we both know that it is what makes us happy. This is what we call a half-thuth joke and we laugh off this and we know it is acceptable because that what friendship is. There is one unwritten rule in friendship "make your friends happy", and this is that rule.
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