Friday, August 15, 2014


In today’s unprecedented hype of internet, it is so clear that many people from all walks of life are keeping eye into social media.  In fact, 30% of world populace is into internet and consume about 7 unbreakable hours a day to keep connected.  Men and women, opulent and deprived, young and old, and single or married are now following this craze.  Because of this phenomenon, tons of heated discussion in cyber space between friends, acquaintance and netizens that ranging from political, religion, social and personal become viral and at risk on disputes.   And here married life is not exemption.

This media hype puts in question today’s modern-time marital relationship of the couples when it comes to trust, honesty, respect and loyalty.  When the relationship of husband and wife goes along with the technology of communication particularly in social networking, it raises the debate now if it is right to know your spouse’s password or nicer to say give your own secret code in different social network accounts.  Is it really proper for married and engaged couples to give their password to their partner?  This question came out amidst of searching remedies in putting off doubt and disputes between partners.

My two-cent, it is not necessary and important if it hounds our sense of right and wrong. There is no such thing as whether the right answer is yes or no because either way will make it or break it.  It doesn’t matter.  Actually, it doesn’t make a real sense when you can easily have two accounts on which you can hide the second and secret account.  What it needs to take is a mutual understanding whether you know or you don’t know your spouse password.  Besides, it is categorically non-sense for those couples who are keeping their mutual trust intact and unshaken.  Knowing your partner’s password is nonsensical since both of you are not doing things that will upset, betray, and offend your better-half.

The main concerned in this “compromising password” is the interest of partner’s security that complacents the peace of mind that knowingly and unknowingly is subsequently guaranteeing that both will act right.  It serves as preventive measure for future utilization to investigate the troubling doubts and conduct loyalty check.  As the modern time dictates, this compromising password becomes prototype that justifies the fad but manifest the deteriorating doubt and loss of trust to your partner.  For some who have worries in memory, this will be acceptable but to know for personal use is totally unfair, wrong and bad.

While it is understood that when a man and a woman have become one, their individual secrets become conjugal and shared secrets, I think it should not really go as a whole.  We still have rights to hold back a little privacy for us to uphold our own self respect and confidence.  I would still want to respect some right to privacy, undisclosed what is that to be confidential and put personal is to personal.  It is not doubting and distrusting your spouse but instead it is enhancing the belief on you both.  What the two should do when they took the vow, they will not do any wrong that will harm their marriage to keep their trust.  Withholding oneself to abuse the trust that has given is sign of matured and responsible individual.  If both of them will enrich in their heart the commitment to be loyal, the threat of modern and high-tech marital test will not succeed.

I have many married friends whose password in social networking accounts is conjugal secret.  Although I don’t want to do the same thing but I am not saying it’s wrong because I merely do not care into this issue.  Having a solid stand whether against or not doesn’t feel me pleased.  For those who share the secret code, I am not to criticize them for my stand in this issue is neither on the pros nor cos.  You can have your spouse password, or you can keep it unexposed because at the end of the day, it is the understanding between the couple that will bond the marital relationship.

Alex V. Villamayor
August 15, 2014

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